Maybe the simplest and most effortless habit for living a happier life is to take one or a few minutes every day to focus on what is already here and that you can be
grateful for in your life.
It can lift your mood and boost motivation very quickly. It can help you to find the
things in your life that you want to focus even more of your time and energy on.
And I have found that it helps me to not just take things for granted and to find
joy even during the tougher times.
It is simply an awesome habit to cultivate that demands little but gives much
Here I will explore 5 simple tips that you can use to create more
gratitude and happiness for yourself.
1. Pause and look around yourself.
A first simple step to build the gratitude habit is simply to pause in your everyday
life and to ask yourself questions like:
What can I be grateful for in my life today?
Who are 3 people that I can be grateful to have in my life and why?
If you cannot come up with several things or people every day then that is OK.
If you find one thing or one person then that is great too. Don’t get hung up on the
numbers. Just take a few minutes and see what you come up with.
Try to not repeat the same things too often. Instead, try to think of more things
and people you can be grateful for in your life.
2. Look towards yourself.
Don’t just look outward.
Take a look at yourself too. A habit of being appreciative and grateful towards
yourself is a simple way to improve self-esteem and self-confidence.
What are 3 things I can be grateful for about myself?
It could be that you were a good father in a moment of crisis this week. It could be
that you finally got done with that task you had been procrastinating on.
Your self-gratitude does not have to be all about achievements at work or in
school for example. You can simply be grateful for your good sense of humor or
that you help people out a lot by being a good listener from time to time.
3. Take a closer look at the very smaller things or on what you may
take for granted.
Don’t just focus on the big and obvious things you can be grateful for.
Think about what very small things you can be grateful for too.
Like the plant just in front of my laptop that I am writing these words on.
It is not a remarkable plant. But its simple beauty in the vibrant green color, how
it keeps growing on just a little water and sunshine and the faint smell of nature is
something simple I feel grateful for.
Another thing that I am grateful for today – that I may sometimes take for
granted – was my lunch. It was a bowl of fresh pasta with a very simple tomato
sauce. It was delicious. And, more importantly, I don’t have to go hungry. I am in
the very fortunate position of being able to eat lunch every day.
Ask yourself: what is one very small thing that I can be grateful for today? And
what is one thing I may usually for granted that I can be grateful for?
Opening your eyes to the small and daily things you can appreciate lets you truly
see more of the simple beauty in life.
4. Do it early or late in your day.
A simple way to make this habit stick is to take 1 minute in the morning to get a
good start to your day by finding 3 small or big things you are grateful for in your
Another simple way is to take a few minutes each evening and to use a journal to
write down maybe 3 or 5 things you are grateful for about your day, about
yourself or about your life.
Try one of these tiny time commitments every day for a week and see how it
impacts your life.
5. Express your gratitude.
Don’t just keep the gratitude in your head. Openly express it.
Make other people happier too and help them to perhaps pay it forward later on
by expressing how you are grateful for having them in your life. Plus, their smile
and the joy in their eyes when you tell them this will make you happier too.
Now, that gratitude could just be a small sentence. But it can have a big impact on
someone’s day, week or even life sometimes. So tell the people in your life.
Tell them in person tonight. Or write an email or a letter to someone a little
further away in the world. Or send a small text message right now.
Take care all you lovely hoopers and have a truly wonderful day!